Thursday, 10 November 2016

Chronicles of a Bride-II

All of a sudden I’m under limelight and every step of mine is the talk of the bridal town. Suddenly, my life has become more interesting to the people around me. Every step of mine is not just watched but also commented upon. As much as I enjoy being the centre of attention, opinions are something that doesn’t float my boat.

Starting from nail color to advantages of taking i-pills, all good intended and ill-intended people have an opinion about the bride’s life. Icing in the cake: the bride’s opinion always stands null and void. No matter how logical it is.

From beauty tips to how to run a home, everyone walks around with a ‘Bride 101 guide’. Everyone feels that their version is the best and they make absolute sense. For example, the orthodox but skilled tailor says padded blouse will bring disgrace to in-law’s family and hence to be avoided. The good natured bride is expected to nod her head in understanding, in fact, smack her head and say ‘How did I forget this rule?”

Grandma’s cousin who is older than the oldest tortoise calls up and tells, “Don’t eat bitter gourd before wedding because it will make the relationship bitter.” *Eye Rolling* Neighbor uncle’s brother’s son’s friend who is a skin doctor living in the USA is of the opinion that “Walking in the Sun will tan bride’s skin.” *Sun can you scorch me to ashes?*

Like I said, it’s good that so many experienced people want to share their experiences and guide the bride to a smoother relationship. But when will the bride build her unique relationship? No two relationships are the same. What was true for someone need not even happen in another’s life. Why can’t all these people understand this basic principle? Why can’t they stow their opinions in their purse and let the bride be free?

Dear bride, take the ‘pi’ value out of Opinions. You’ll have just onions left. Your life; your relationship; your opinions! Oops, He matters too! 

Monday, 31 October 2016

Chronicles of a Bride- I

Do you remember your first job? How excited you were to land in it? The thrill of doing something “Real”?  The relief that you have a job finally? Well, that’s how it feels when wedding gets settled too. Doesn’t matter if it’s a love marriage or an arranged marriage.

What’s so different between the first job and the wedding is that, you have no clue in the latter. This blog series is going to be an undiluted sarcastic view of the wedding world through the eyes of bride.
When you join a job, they give you training for tasks and then conduct an assessment at the end of the training. You have no such option in the wedding. You are assessed immediately and guess what, no training happens. There is not even a syllabus you could refer to.

We all are academically well qualified and are so fond of exams (at least in India). In Wedding, there’s no syllabus, no classes, no teaching, just straight exams- that too board exams. What more, you are expected to perform exemplary as your family respect depends on that. 

If at all, you scourge some tips from grandmas and moms, they are all Out-of-Syllabus for our exam. For example, grandma syllabus doesn’t warn you that having a funky mobile cover will fetch you 50 negative points. Or for that matter, making Maggi isn’t considered as cooking.

At a MNC, your appraisal is kept to yourself, or at least you get to know it first. As a bride, your appraisal score reaches you last with ten different versions. If only, there was a course in distance education to get Masters in Being a Bride, it would’ve done womankind a greater good. Had we also had tuition centre for bride-coaching, the seats would sell faster than a box-office movie.

Even with an impressive CV alias Matrimony profile, you can never be assured of having a hassle free transition from Happily-single/ In-a-relationship to Bride. End of the day, no matter how many miseries are bundled together, it’s a joy to behold. Having a new family, raising your own- all those childhood dreams coming true. Every bride has a different syllabus and a different exam to give. May be that’s why there’s no course in becoming a bride.

Have you faced any misery? Let me know in the comments..

Friday, 22 April 2016

10 things that happens when you fall in love!

It has been a dream to experience this and write about it. Falling in love is a beautiful feeling. Suddenly even the scorching summer feels like blossoming Spring. If you are in mid-twenties and get into a relationship for the first time, these things are bound to happen. Singles out there, you are warned.

  • Suddenly you are the talk of the town
People are suddenly interested in your life. From ‘Told-you-so’ comment to those nasty envious glances, people can’t stop raving about your love life. Sometimes there are a few who even come up and ask, “How did you nail it?”

  • Your personal time gets a whole new definition
Earlier personal time was either curling up with a book or watching a movie all by yourself. Now personal time is talking to your significant other or going out with them. Even your friends will complain how they get to see you very less.

  • It's “We” not “I”
Each time you talk to the love of your life, you have to consciously say ‘We’ and not ‘I’. You don’t want to give them an impression that you are self-centered right in the honeymoon phase.

  • Your imagination gets a face lift
Literally and figuratively. All those dreams with your love now gets a face and voice. Next time you dream, you know what the reaction will be. No more blank spaces in dreams.
  • You’re no longer available in the market

Your friends and acquaintances keep reminding you how you’re no longer eligible in the market and that you are taken. Hey, because I’m taken doesn’t mean I shouldn’t enjoy the beautiful sights around me.
  •  Pressure on looks

Earlier you might have dressed up in a comfy night pants and hung around the whole day.Now even the slightest freckle gets your attention to ensure you look the best for your love. If crush days were filled with anxiety on looks; new relationship is full of pressure on looks.

  • There’s no room for sadness
Like mentioned earlier, everything around you looks beautiful and nice. No more melancholy songs in playlist. Even if your favorite one is played, you just switch to next.

  • The sense of overwhelming

During a bus ride or over a mundane task you ponder how your life has changed or about to change because of the relationship. All of a sudden it’s overwhelming to realize that you have taken such a huge decision in life.

  • The sated smile when you hit the bed

Every night when you hit the bed, you know that there is someone out there who holds you special. Whom you can make smile and happy just by existing. And that mere thought puts a sated smile on your lips before you slip into dreams.

Thursday, 31 March 2016

Letters to My Prince Charming- IV

Hey Prince,

Do you know what the most amazing part of a dream is? It's dreaming. Conjuring different ideas and possibilities on how things will be. Picking that favorite color for wedding dress, food menu, dance practice, days together, what not?!

Do you know what the worst part of a dream is? It's living the dream. There's every chance that tables will turn. Dreams might become nightmares. Even if it is a dream come true life, there’s no longer the charm of dreaming. You can’t conjure ideas anymore. You can only think of possibilities. The infinity of dreams tends to get restricted.

That's why many fear to dream. They don't want their hopes to turn into a pile of burden at the back. At some unfortunate times, it does change colors. At other times, a dream is the best way to escape reality. It feels that the fantasy world is much better than the real world.

But my dear love, I'm not scared to dream. I'm building our meets, giggles, and life in my heart. Because the whole point of dreaming is to live it. There will be a day when the reality is better than dream. The real moments perfect beyond imagination.

When I have a warrior on his way to live my dreams, there's no question of fear. There's just living life King-size with you. Yeah, certain things might not go as per my imagination. But they are just aesthetics. Minor details of triviality.

My dream is you. Being at your side. And I have no fear in stepping up to the place. The rest can just go with the wind through the window.

Waiting to live beyond the dreams..

Monday, 21 March 2016

Letters to My Prince Charming- III

Hey Charmer,

Have you ever taken a minute to imagine how big this universe is? We’re like a speck of dust that floats in the air. Invisible and no different from the fellow dust specks. But with that few grams weighing brain and tons weighing ego, we think we’re bigger than this universe itself. That we are the most important people; everything revolves around us.

In this nondescript world our existence, achievement and money doesn’t really matter. What really matters is love. Being special for someone.  Holding that privilege place in your precious world. That’s what makes this life totally worth it.

Winning trophies are secondary; winning your smile matters a lot. Making a sleek presentation doesn’t matter; cooking your favorite meal matters. Having a huge bank balance doesn’t top my priority list; making memories with you does.

End of the day, my world revolves around you. Might sound really sappy. But if I step back, take a minute and think, I realize a few things. I may or may not make a difference to the world. I might not even be remembered by people when I die.

But, I can make you feel special every morning you wake up. I can make you sleep with a sated smile on your lips. I can make your world seem like a better place to live. All this just with my love. To me, that’s true achievement. That’s purpose of life. Everything else that’s materialistic is just by-product of our love.

My universe awaits your arrival.

Saturday, 20 February 2016

Confession of a Broad Minded Woman- X

“I’m strong in the professional world. In personal life I’m the softest you will ever see.”

A big myth that most of the women fool themselves with. A strong woman cannot bifurcate her worlds. In fact, there are no separate worlds called professional and personal.

Most of our colleagues are our best friends. We do business with our close friends. A strong woman isn’t someone who puts up a fa├žade with her attitude and make up. She is someone who is strong from within.

In this last confession for this series, read further to know how we tell this myth everywhere so that people understand that we have emotions too.

A broadminded woman isn’t someone who would create fuss over spilled coffee or an unshaped eyebrow. But yeah, we have soft corner too where the pin pokes easily. That is us, showing our compassionate side to the world.

A strong woman is someone who is strong enough to smile through the situation blinking back the tears and swallowing the lump in the throat. Not because she doesn’t have a choice. Because, she knows that’s the best thing to do.

Yeah, she might feel like firing with a laser gun or devouring one more scoop of ice cream. But she is wise and sometimes old enough too to stop her from impulse.

She would never sound desperate and jeopardize her date. She knows her game and will play it well. She might not know the result. But will be matured to take whatever comes out. Because she is not strong for herself alone, she is stronger for both and the relationship that she wants to build.

She would do business dealings with compassion. She would reprimand her friends for being cross. She would rush in her business suit for a movie with friends. She would use logic and brains when feathers are ruffled in her relationship. She would put a smile and be ready for the game when she is just exhausted with a silly fight. Next time you meet her, pat her shoulder and give thumbs up, for she is truly a strong broadminded woman.

Got any more points to add for the confession series? Drop it in the comments J

Tuesday, 16 February 2016

Letters to My Prince Charming- II

Hey Prince Charming,

Another Valentine’s day has crossed by. Even the kids are celebrating Rose day and Hug day. For you and me, everyday happens to be special. But with so much love in the air, couldn’t stop myself from writing this for you.

I’m a career driven woman. Workaholic. Ambitious. That will not stop me from being an incurable romantic at heart. Or stop me in being Sensibly in love with you. Not madly.

I’m not the nagging girl you would come across. You say, “give me time, I’ll get back to you.” I’d wait. No qualms about it. Not ruin or long drive by giving you driving instructions. Yeah, I might be scared to death. I’ll hold you tighter.

I will be running behind my business targets and presentations. But you will be constantly in my thoughts. How else do you think I put up with those boring meetings? I keep reliving those funny moments and jokes we shared.

I will be caught up in corporate dinners and client meets that run for late hours. Be assured that my text will reach you asking your whereabouts.

If you are in the mid of a battle, discussion, game or hang-out with friends, you wouldn’t hear a beep from me. I can hold on and wait until you get free. No forty missed calls and hundred texts.

Baby, being a valentine is not about fancy dinners, long walks and looking into each other’s eyes. That’s why I told ‘Sensibly in love’ not ‘madly in love’. I love you for what you are. To me, you are perfect. We will not live by certain written and unwritten rules of love.

Unconditional is what I swear by. For the things that you do, you don’t do. Everything. I would never stop loving you. Don’t fret over a gift. Ride your horse/bike/car/jet faster and come soon.

Sunday, 17 January 2016

Letters to My Prince Charming- I

Dear Love,

I know you are busy conquering the world. You are on your way and I’m awaiting your arrival. In the mean time, I thought I will keep inking my love and send it through digital dove so that they reach you now and then. We shall talk of various things under the sun- beyond the sun too. End of the day, these talks are the ones that make a relationship.

Maybe you are having a bad hair day. Maybe you are feeling a little dull. Maybe you are ecstatic of your recent victory. In all these tiny moments I want to remind you that there is a damsel here thinking of you and waiting just for you.

There is no hurry Love. Reach me when you can. I have waited a quarter century. A few more years do not make a lot of difference. I shall live with the love until you come by. After all, the best wine, love, and dream take longer to happen.

In this speed driven era, people are breaking up even before falling into a relationship. ‘Instant’ is the word that they look for. We will take it slow and steady. The wait; the patience; the time- will make us relish our time together.

But until then, know that I love you. My faceless, address-less, Chivalrous Prince- You conquered my heart effortlessly. The throne awaits your arrival. Come at your leisure pace.

Until then,

Yours Lovingly