Monday, 25 May 2015

10 problems that an Introvert faces everyday

There’s a proverb: Talk less, work more. There are people who talk lesser and least. Psychology calls them introvert while there are other names branded on them. You might be the one who is always misunderstood for your silence or on the other side of the fence and have a misconception about less talking people. Being an introvert is more difficult than ever because of the modern times and social pressure. As a forced extrovert, who better than I could point out the problems that an Introvert faces every day. Go ahead and understand the poor souls. If you are one of the poor souls, nod your head and share this (let people around you understand.)

1.       The halo of Rude and Attitude
Because we talk less, we are always given the title of rude. That we show our attitude and don’t converse socially because we are too proud of a kind. Sadly, the truth is other way around.

2.       The fear of being misunderstood
An introvert constantly checks what he/she speaks for the fear of being misunderstood. Unlike extraverts, we don’t have a way with words (at least while speaking) and sometimes stop mid-way on what we were about to tell.

3.       Difficulty in expressing
Yes! You read it right. Like I said, we don’t have a flow with the words and find it difficult to talk about how we feel. Added with the second point, we are left clueless on how to tell what we want to tell. Give us a paper and pen, and you will get the most poetic expression of how we feel.

4.       Being looked as social aliens
A small circle of friends who probably are sticking around for ages together now. No new friends or acquaintances circle. We get the weird stare and branded as social aliens. Lock us in a room with a stranger and open the door after 5 hours and we would have spoken hardly a dozen of words.

5.       Misfit in a party
Okay, if it is the small chosen circle, then we can say some witty quotes and make you laugh. A new crowd, thumping music, lots of people, we are lost. You will find us in a corner checking out a book shelf, music collection or humming the lyrics with a glass.

6.       Telephone calls that doesn’t last more than a minute
Not that we are not interested to know if you had had breakfast or your nail has grown longer than the last time, it is just that it doesn’t cross our mind at all. I mean, I want to tell you that I’m coming over the weekend to get that new book from you. And oh yeah, I miss you and want to see you too! (See, it is easy to type than to speak).

7.       Lectures on benefits of socializing
Each time we are caught alone with a book or music player, immediately the over friendly extravert launches themselves into a long lecture on the benefits of socializing or how I would die alone because I am an introvert. Every time it is the same: You will have nobody to stand by you. Then how come they are there talking to me?

8.       Talking is Taxing
Imagine taking 30 pushups after having a heavy lunch. That’s how it feels to talk for more than 10 minutes for us. Yes, it is energy draining and leaves us exhausted more than you think. It is not that our vocabulary is poor but talking them seems like a strenuous exercise.

9.       I am not UPSET!
I’m sitting quiet and calm because this is me. I’m not brooding over spilled milk or upset about something. I just don’t have the habit of jumping around and being buoyant. Please stop bugging with your misplaced concern.

10.   Assuming that I’m a Genius
This is the worst of all. Because I don’t talk doesn’t mean that I know the cube root of PI like the back of my hand. I have limited intelligence and I spend a great deal of time thinking about random stuffs or simply gazing out of the window. My silence is not directly proportional to my intelligence.

Dear extroverts, want a friend or partner who would patiently listen to all that you are jabbering? Go find that introvert in the gang and start hanging out. After all, if all are extroverts who would listen to you then?
Dear introverts, don’t keep musing over how your words will be understood? Also, don’t fall prey for the social pressure of being an extrovert. Embrace your personality and be who you are until you feel the need to change for yourself.

Thursday, 14 May 2015


Okay, the above is the regular statistics that you come across these days propagating why there are so many grooms but not so many brides in the country. But, the available grooms do screw it big time and cut off any little chances left to get his bride. This article brings you just a few of those..

#1.  Clinging on to that ex-girlfriend

Okay dude, we do understand there was that Cinderella in your life and she smiled like an angel. But could you get over her and not just talk about it to the bride-to-be? After a point it becomes exasperating.

#2. Being a Momma’s boy
We girls see flashing Red sign each time you talk about how you can’t let go of your momma’s saree. Hey, we will love her too. But you the scare the living daylight out of us each time you talk about her perfection. We sense a war coming up and understand which side you’d take up.

#3. Feigning a narrow mind
The girl brings to the table as much as you do. She doesn't need you for any support other than emotional one. And your words about how she should dress up or give up that occasional drinking, makes you sound exactly like a mummy (the Egypt kind, don’t give a nasty stare) from eons old.

#4. Superiority complex
We love men who are tall, dark and handsome, who could stand up for themselves and us too. But that doesn't mean you have to show that macho attitude to us. So what if you call us first or initiate that dinner plan? Just because you are THE GROOM or from groom’s side doesn't mean you have to demonstrate an upper hand.

#5. Underestimating the girls’ intellect
Boy, boy! When will you realize? She has a job, runs her family and is multi-tasking because she has brains. We don’t just swoon at Twilight and Shopaholic series. We do read Karl Marx and GDP growth. Stop zoning out conversations because you think she can’t handle it.

#6. Beauty and the beast
You want a perfect looking zero-size girl who is fair as milk and beautiful? Wait, are you Ranbir or Brad Pitt? Did you look at the mirror this morning and spotted that grey hair and lopsided lips? Telling a girl that her looks are substandard or letting your Groom’s side talk about the looks as a selection criteria shows how shallow your mind is.

#7. Brushing off her career as trivial
Expecting her to compromise her career, shift to your town and take up a job or worse expecting her to quit and take care of household chores is intolerable. We do understand that we have to compromise. But a little contribution and sacrifice from your side or genuine interest in our growth would make the compromise look worthwhile.

I’m not stereotyping men here. But dear men, please remember: We are in demand. IF not you, I would choose a better suitor. Unfortunately, statistics and society has ripped you off that choice. May be you will get a girl, may be not! If you want a real Woman to be your backbone and make your life better, please don’t do the above 7 things.

If you are a man and got agitated reading this and vehemently stand against these points, drop in your details. We girls would be delighted to meet the mythical man and marry too!  J

Monday, 11 May 2015

Hail the Queen!

My heritage runs deeper
I’m embargoed to question!
My Queen deserves treasure,
And hold bounties as she wishes!

Everything is Queen’s and King’s;
I’m only lent a morsel out of it.
But why do I care, because
This is democracy just in name!

My queen has a green thumb for arts
She likes giving us a show to enjoy.
Just like the yesteryear performances,
We know in the end she wins unequivocally!

Everything has a price to be bought,
Or is it loyalty to Queen’s service?
I’m witnessing consumerism at its best
Treading me a path to follow when I need.

When justice is a subjective term,
And all royals are usurpers,
My safe bet is my queen- For

She is the mother of my motherland!

Sunday, 3 May 2015

Facade- II

A year back, I wrote this poem's prequel. Read both the poems to know how a strong woman evolves and also what is there behind the masks.

Facade-I :

My ego is my mask
My sarcasm is my shield
My words are my sword
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

I will rip your throat
I will make you quiver
I will personify ruthlessness
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

I keep my emotions in check
I keep my senses at bay
I keep feigning nonchalance
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

Logic is at my rescue
Reasoning is my favorite
Sappy sentiments I discard
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

Laughable looks I snort at
Calling body image a myth
Vanity is ephemeral I say
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

Independent is my middle name
Personal space I fight for
Self sustained I claim
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

Romance turns my nose up
Commitment is Achilles heel
Piousness I brush away
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

Dark doesn't bother me
Loafers are annoying pests
I shoo away with a finger
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

Rejection doesn't bother me
Criticism doesn't kill me
Humiliation is long forgotten
Yes I put up a facade- 'cause
I want to be a strong woman

My mask is now inseparable
Making only my eyes visible
It doesnt suffocate to breathe
Yes I'm slowly accepting the facade-'cause

I want to be a strong woman